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Too much empathy for others could lead to despair. Compassion is the answer!

Some workplaces closed their doors and staff lost their income. Since Covid-19 pandemic started, I have travelled to many places in the countries. I have talked to some people about their livelihoods. Although Cambodia has not experienced community transmission of the disease, it is obvious to witness economical impacts on people’s lives. Their income is decreased or taken away when their businesses go slower, and their workplaces are closed. This means less money for rent, food and medical care. Each family member in particular children needs to limit their basic needs. They could be in such a situation for longer!  Those were the words I heard during my conversations with them. Thinking about their wellbeings afterwards makes me overwhelmed. I kept worrying about from one thing to another, especially about affected children and elders, which made me sad and exhausted. My sadness and exhaustion, according to neuroscientists and psychologists, could be an “empathy fatigue”. It is m...

ធាណិαžαž‚េαž…្រើαž“αž–េαž€ ធាαž…αž’្វើឲ្αž™αž្αž›ូαž“αž˜ាαž“αž‘ុαž€្ខ! αž•្αžαž›់αž€αžšុណាឲ្αž™αž‚េវិαž‰ αž‘ើαž”αž“ាំαž˜αž€αž“ូវសេαž…αž€្តីសុខ!

αž€αž“្αž›ែαž„αž’្វើαž€ាαžšαž„ារមួαž™αž…ំαž“ួαž“αž”ាαž“αž”ិαž‘αž‘្វារ αž”ុαž‚្αž‚αž›ិαž€αž”ាត់αž”αž„់αž”្រាαž€់αž…ំណូαž›។ αž…ាαž”់តាំαž„αž–ីមាαž“αž€ាររាតត្αž”ាαžαž“ៃαž‡ំαž„ឺαž€ូវីដ αŸ‘αŸ©αž˜αž€  ខ្αž‰ុំαž”ាαž“αž’្វើដំណើαžšαž‘ៅαž…្រើαž“αž€αž“្αž›ែαž„αž“ៅαž€្αž“ុαž„αž”្αžšαž‘េស។ αž‘ោះαž‡ាαž”្αžšαž‘េស αž€αž˜្αž–ុαž‡ាαž–ុំមាαž“αž€ាαžšαž†្αž›αž„αž“ៅαž€្αž“ុαž„αžŸαž αž‚αž˜αž“៍ αž“ិαž„αž–ុំមាαž“αž˜αž“ុស្សស្αž›ាαž”់ដោαž™αžŸាαžšαž‡ំαž„ឺαž“េះαž€្តី αž€៏αž™ើαž„αžƒើαž‰αž™៉ាαž„αž…្αž”ាស់αž“ូαžœαž•αž›αž”៉ះαž–ាαž›់αžšαž”αžŸ់វាαž˜αž€αž›ើαž‡ីαžœαž—ាαž–αž”្αžšαž‡ាαž–αž›αžšαžŠ្αž‹។  αž…ំណូαž›αžšαž”αžŸ់αž–ួαž€αž‚ាត់αž’្αž›ាαž€់αž…ុះ αž¬αž”ាត់αž”αž„់ដោαž™αžŸារមុαžαžšαž”αžšαž‘αž‘ួαž›αž‘ាαž“αž›ែαž„αž˜ាαž“αžŠំណើαžšαž€ារ αž“ិαž„αž€αž“្αž›ែαž„αž€ាαžšαž„ារត្រូαžœαž”ាαž“αž”ិαž‘αž‘្វារ។ ថវិαž€ាសម្រាαž”់αž‡ួαž›αž•្αž‘ះ αž¬αž•្αž‚αž់αž•្αž‚αž„់ម្ហូαž”αž’ាហារ ថ្αž“ាំαžŸαž„្αž€ូαžœαž“ៅαž–េαž›αžˆឺថ្αž€ាត់ មាαž“αž€ាαž“់ តែតិαž…αž‘ៅαŸ— ហើαž™αžŸαž˜ាαž‡ិαž€αž‚្រួសាαžšαž“ីមួαž™αŸ— αž‡ាαž–ិសេαžŸαž€ូαž“αŸ—αžšαž”αžŸ់αž–ួαž€αž‚ាត់ ត្រូវរស់αž“ៅαž™៉ាαž„αžšឹតត្αž”ិត។ αž–ួαž€αž‚ាត់មិαž“αž’ាαž…αžŸ្ថិαžαž“ៅαž€្αž“ុαž„αžŸ្ថាαž“αž—ាαž–αž”ែαž”αž“េះαž”ាαž“αž™ូαžšαž‘ៀαžαž”ាαž“αž‘េ!  αž‘ាំαž„αž’αžŸ់αž“េះαž‚ឺαž‡ាសម្តីαžšαž”αžŸ់αž”្αžšαž‡ាαž–αž›αžšαžŠ្αž‹αž˜ួαž™αž…ំαž“ួαž“αžŠែαž›αž្αž‰ុំαž”ាαž“αž‡ួαž”αžŸαž“្αž‘αž“ាαž“ៅតាαž˜αž”αžŽ្តាខេត្ត / αž€្រុαž„αž˜ួαž™αž…ំαž“ួαž“αž€αž“្αž›αž„αž˜αž€។ αž€ាαžšαž‚ិαžαž–ីសុαžαž‘ុαž€្αžαžšαž”αžŸ់αž–ួαž€αž‚ាត់αž‡ាαž–ិសេαžŸαž€ូαž“αŸ—αž‚ាត់ αž“ិαž„αž˜αž“ុស្αžŸαž…ាស់ αž”ាαž“αž’្វើឲ្αž™αž្αž‰ុំαž–ិαž”ាαž€αž…ិត្αžαž™៉ាαž„αž្αž›ាំαž„។ ខ្αž‰ុំαž”ារម្αž—αž–ីរឿαž„αž˜ួαž™αž‘ៅរឿαž„αž˜ួαž™αž‘ៀត មិαž“αž’αžŸ់មិαž“αž ើαž™ ដែαž›αž’្វើឲ្αž™αž…ិត្តខ្αž‰ុំαž€ាαž“់តែស្មុαž‚្រស្មាαž‰ αž›ែαž„αžŸαž”្αž”ាαž™αž…ិត្ត αž“ិαž„αž˜ាαž“αž’ារម្មណ៍αž“ឿαž™αžŽាαž™។ αž‘ុαž€្αžαž–្រួαž™ αž“ិαž„αž—ាαž–αž“ឿαž™αž αž់αž…ិត្αžαžšαž”αžŸ់ខ្αž‰ុំαž“េះ αž”ើតាមធ្αž“αž€αžŸ្រាαžœαž‡្រាαžœαž•្αž“...

αž”ើសិαž“αž₯αž‘្αž”ូαžœαž“េះខ្αž›ួαž“αž្αž‰ុំαž‡ាαž€ុមារវិαž‰ តើខ្αž‰ុំαž“ៅαžšαž€្សាαž‘αž˜្αž›ាαž”់αž”αž“្αž‘ោសខ្αž›ួαž“αž―αž„αžŠែαžšαž¬αž‘េ?

ខ្αž›ោαž„αž‘្វារសាαž›ាαž”αž‹αž˜αžŸិαž€្សា ដែαž›αž្αž‰ុំαž”ាαž“αžšៀαž“αž€ាαž›αž–ីαŸ£αŸ αž†្αž“ាំមុαž“ αž“ៅខែមុαž“αž“េះ ខ្αž‰ុំαž”ាαž“αž‘ៅសាαž›ាαž”αž‹αž˜αžŸិαž€្សាដែαž›αž្αž‰ុំαž”ាαž“αžšៀαž“αž€ាαž›αž–ីαŸ£αŸ αž†្αž“ាំមុαž“។ αž‚្រាαž“់តែឈាαž“αž‡ើαž„αž ួαžŸαžšαž”αž„αžŸាαž›ាαž—្αž›ាម αž’αž“ុស្សាវរីαž™αž‡ាαž…្រើαž“αž”ាαž“αž្αžšαž›αž”់αž˜αž€αžšαž€αž្αž‰ុំវិαž‰ ហាαž€់ដូαž…αž‡ាαž–ួαž€αžœាមាαž“αž€្តីαž“ឹαž€αžšαž›ឹαž€αžŠαž›់ខ្αž‰ុំαž‡ាខ្αž›ាំαž„ αž”αž“្αž‘ាαž”់αž–ីαž”ែαž€αž‚្αž“ាαž™៉ាαž„αž™ូរ។ ខ្αž‰ុំឈរសម្αž›ឹαž„αž‘ៅαž‘ីαž’្αž›ាសាαž›ា ហើαž™αž“ឹαž€αžƒើαž‰αžŠαž›់រូαž”αž្αž›ួαž“αž―αž„αž€ាαž›αž–ីαž€ុមាαžšαž€ំαž–ុαž„αž’αž„្αž‚ុαž™αž›េαž„αžŠីខ្សាαž…់αž‡ាមួαž™αž˜ិត្αžαž—αž€្តិ។ αž™ើαž„αž‘្αž”ើαž„αžŠើមស្វាαž™αžូαž…αž˜ួαž™αž‡ាមួαž™αž‚្αž“ា រត់ដេαž‰αž”្αžšαž›ែαž„αž‚្αž“ាαž…ុះαž‘្αž”ើαž„αž›ើαž‡αžŽ្តើរខាαž„αž˜ុខថ្αž“ាαž€់រៀαž“ ហើαž™αž™ើαž„αž…ែαž€αž“ំαž…ំណីដែαž›αž™ើαž„αž…ូαž›αž…ិត្ត​ αž“ិαž„αž˜ាαž“αžšឿαž„αž‡ាαž…្រើαž“αž‘ៀតដែαž›αž្αž‰ុំαž”ាαž“αž“ឹαž€αžƒើαž‰ … ខ្αž‰ុំαž“ៅតែαž”αž“្αžαž“ឹαž€αžƒើαž‰αž’αž“ុស្សាវរីαž™αž€αž“្αž›αž„αž˜αž€ រួαž˜αž‘ាំαž„αžšឿαž„αžš៉ាវដែαž›αž›ំαž”ាαž€αŸ—αž•αž„αžŠែរ។ ខ្αž‰ុំαž“ៅαž…ាំαž–េαž› ខ្αž‰ុំαž’αž“់αž…ិត្ត αž–េαž›αž‚្រូឲ្αž™αž–ិαž“្αž‘ុαž‘ាαž” ហើαž™αž្αž‰ុំαž†្αž„αž›់ថាហេតុធ្វីខ្αž‰ុំមិαž“αž–ូαž€ែដូαž…αž‚េ។ ខ្αž‰ុំαž…្រណែαž“αž“ឹαž„αž˜ិត្តរួមថ្αž“ាαž€់αž“ៅαž–េαž›αžƒើαž‰αž‚េមាαž“αžŸαž˜្αž—ាαžšαž›្αž’αŸ—αžŠែαž›αž្αž‰ុំαž‚្មាαž“។ ខ្αž‰ុំαžšαž„αžšαž”ួសរាαž„αž€ាαž™ (មិαž“αž’្αž„αž“់αž’្αž„αžšαž‘េ) αž“ៅαž–េαž›αž˜ាαž“αž‡αž˜្αž›ោះαž‡ាមួαž™αžŸិស្សមាαžŒαž’ំαž‡ាαž„ ដួαž›αž“ៅαž–េαž›αžšαž់αž›ឿαž“αž–េαž€ αž¬αž’្αž›ាαž€់αž“ៅαž–េαž›αž‘្αž”ើαž„αž€αž“្αž›ែαž„αž្αž–αžŸ់αž–េαž€αž‡ាដើម។ αž€្រោαž™αž–ីαž“ឹαž€αžƒើαž‰αž“ូវរឿαž„αžš៉ាαžœαž›ំαž”ាαž€αŸ—αž‘ាំαž„αž“ោះ ខ្αž‰ុំαž…ាαž”់αž•្តើមមាαž“αž…ិត្αžαž”្រតិαž€αž˜្αž˜αž—ា្αž›αž˜αžា ខ្αž‰ុំαž“ឹαž„αž‡ួαž™αž€ាαžšαž–ាαžšαž€្មេαž„αž”្រុសដែαž›αž‡ារូαž”αž្αž‰ុំαž€ាαž›αž–ីαž€្មេαž„αž“ោះ ឲ្αž™αž‡ៀαžŸαž•ុαžαž–ី...

Would I blame myself if I were a child now?

The gate of my primary school, where I visited the first time after 30 years .   Last month I returned to my primary school, where I studied 30 years ago. After entering the gate, memories flooded my head. I saw my younger self playing sand with my friends. We climbed a small mango tree, chased each other up and down a staircase in front of our classroom, exchanged our favourite food, and the list goes on.  Flashbacks kept coming, including the downtimes. I was upset when my teachers gave me low marks and questioned myself for not being good enough. I was jealous of my friends having stuff I didn’t. I was physically hurt from disagreements with bigger classmates or fell from my attempts to prove to everyone I was the fastest runner or most talented climber.  My immediate reaction to those difficult times was to protect that boy, my child-self, from pain and suffering. I wanted to assure him everything would be alright. He did not need to worry or blame himself for anythin...

តើហេតុដូម្តេαž…αž‘ើαž”αž្αž‰ុំαž”្រើαž–េαž›αž™ូរ ដើម្αž”ីαž‘αž‘ួαž›αž™αž€αžŸαž˜ាαž’ិαž˜αž€αž”αžŠិαž”αž្តិ?

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Why it took me so long to accept meditation?

Mountain-carved Buddha statue in Phnom Sampov,  Battambang  Having born in a Buddhism country, Cambodia does not make me meditate by default. Meditation is one of the core practices of Buddhists; however, many Cambodians, including me instead, are culturally bound to religious rituals. The practice is primarily for devout monks, practitioners and scholars. Throughout my education from primary to undergraduate schools here, I never encountered any mediation teachings, not even once. That makes sense because I was not learning in Buddhist monasteries anyway! But socially, there is a belief that mediation is only practiced by those who scarify their lives to pursue a religious path. This thought alone kept me away from trying it. I have no doubts about the benefits of meditation. It positively impacts our mental and physical health. Thousands of scientific studies have supported that. Though knowing this in my head could not push me to sit down, close my eyes and focus on my brea...